Y’all, this post has been hard for me to write. These photos are hard for me to post. Mostly because in my hearts of hearts, I know I’m being ridiculous. Many of you will read this post and look at these photos and think that I’m absolutely crazy, and maybe I am; you’ll think I have dysmorphia, and maybe I do. You’ll tell me that I look great and that I should be proud of and happy with myself; that the way I think I should look is unrealistic and unattainable. But the truth is that while you might be right, I just don’t like my postpartum body and I’m not sorry about that. Some of you will be mad at me for thinking negative thoughts about myself because you’re not happy with yourself, and you’re entitled to feel that just like I’m entitled to how I feel.
Do I think I’m fat? No. But, I do long for the figure I had when I was 22.
Is that shallow? Probably.
Do I care? No.
This post is sponsored by stā BODY but, as always, all thoughts and opinions are mine.
Y’all, I know I’m not fat. I know this. But, in addition to the pudge I can’t kick at my waist line (which I realize is pretty minimal) regardless of the number on the scale, the subtle stretch marks, and the loose-ish skin around my belly button (which is now bigger and deeper than ever before), I have diastasis recti. I’ve always had a bloating problem, but my diastasis recti makes it appear to be even worse. I avoid form-fitting tops and dresses at all costs because I’m unhappy with my midsection and how it expands throughout the day. Flowy, a-line, trapeze, and swing styles are my jam.
Fun Fact: I wear shapewear every single time I wear a dress. That’s not a lie; things jiggle these days and I need to hold them in. So, it’s part of my daily wardrobe.
All of that being said, I saw myself a little bit differently for the first time this past weekend. I tried on my new stā BODY (pronouced “stay body”) bodysuit with my loose fitting boyfriend shorts and, for the first time in a long time, I felt good about myself. I was slightly self-conscious, of course, but I felt good overall. Since I’m a regular user of shapewear, I’m always up for trying new brands and I was so excited about stā BODY. It’s a bodysuit intended for “every day” use and has a built-in thong bottom (because who wants panty lines?) but it’s actually easy to use the bathroom while wearing it because the bottom is only connected in the front. It doesn’t ride or bunch up, and has a great combination of flattening and stretch. It smoothed out some of my most-hated lumps and dents. What made me the most excited, was that it’s tank-top style so it can be worn on it’s own. The straps are thick enough to hide bra straps which is super important to me these days; I hate strapless bras and they always creep down when I carry my kids around so I always look for things that don’t require one. All of my other shapewear tops have adjustable, thin straps with some sort of stretchy top that screams “I’m shapewear!!” stā BODY, though, has the look of a tank, the advantages of a bodysuit, and the ease of separates.
When I look at the photos below, I see imperfection. That’s just the truth. But, I remind myself of how confident I felt that day, wearing something I otherwise would have never worn without a loose-fitting shirt on top. So, while I don’t love my mom bod just yet, stā BODY is helping me feel more comfortable and confident in my own skin.
And, because stā BODY values you, my awesome readers and wants to help you feel good, too, use the code WORKINGMOM for 20% off your purchase!
So tell me, Mamas… how do you feel about your Mom Bod and what helps you feel confident?