Girl Moms Have a Big Job

This is not a political post. That said, this election week has been crazy, to say the least. Many have been asking how we will explain it to our children. What do we tell our daughters? How could this have happened? I had a different blog post written yesterday but, after some reflection, decided not to post it. Rather than think about what this election may or may not teach my children, I realized that what my husband and I teach our children – our daughters – will hold more weight with them than anyone else on the planet. So, I redirected my focus away from current events.

Sure, one day when they’re older they’ll learn about politics in school; they’ll learn about politicians. But, regardless of what their teachers say and what they see on TV, my daughters will learn more from my example. What a terrifying thought – certainly more terrifying than who is or isn’t in office. My kids are watching my every move, hanging on my every word. I am their truth. I am their teacher. I am their role model. In their eyes, my job is bigger than any president because everything I do affects them personally, directly.

So what will I teach them? Or, rather, what do I hope to teach them?

I hope to teach them that opportunities will come but that they have to work for and seize them. I hope to teach them that things won’t always work out the way they want or plan and that best response is always kindness and grace, even when their hearts are broken. I hope to teach them that while there will always be people who mistreat and devalue them, they are worthy, they are strong, they are smart, and they are powerful. I hope to teach them that they are forces to be reckoned with. I hope to teach them that disagreements should be met with an open mind and empathetic ear. I hope to teach them that everyone has a story and a worldview that will often differ from theirs. I hope to teach them that it’s our job to stand next to and behind the abused, oppressed, and mistreated. I hope to teach them to embrace differences. I hope to teach them that there is nothing God can’t overcome; that He is good and is in all things. I hope to teach them that there will be many things that try to divide our family but that we’re always stronger together. I hope to teach them that emotions are a good thing and that they should absolutely express them – but always in a way that won’t damage themselves or others. I hope to teach them that they should always stand by their convictions, despite societal or peer pressure. I hope to teach them that there will always be obstacles in their way but they have the ability to destroy them. I hope to teach them that they never have to settle for the status quo and that they do have the ability to change their circumstances. I hope to teach them that they are world changers.

Regardless of politics, “the man” might try to hold them down. “The man” may make them feel like less-than. “The man” might try to grope them and call them names. It’s our job to show them that any man who attempts these things isn’t a man at all; they don’t have to accept it and that they have the opportunity to make a difference everyday. But, I hope to teach them how to throw a punch like a man, too… you know, just in case.

Girl Moms, we have a big job ahead of us. Let’s get to work.

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  1. November 15, 2016 / 1:32 pm

    Excellent post! I agree with everything you have here. It is our responsibility as parents to teach out children respect, tolerance, love and kindness.

    • November 15, 2016 / 5:01 pm

      Yassss girl! Thank you so much!

  2. Horatio
    November 14, 2016 / 10:58 pm

    You might tell your daughters that political contests should continue to remain about the most suitable candidate for the job, and not still another outlet to vote only for the white person, the black person, the woman, or the man.

    You might tell your daughters to stand up for themselves in life, and that it isn’t a grand idea to be a habitual doormat.

    You might tell your daughters that it isn’t a desired trait in the leader of the free world that she should be unwilling and/or unable to even stand up for herself, when the country, the continent, and the society all around her needs her to stand-up for them.

    You might tell your daughters to include *everyone* in a society when appealing to that society for support in their endeavors. You might tell your daughters that when one first makes a mistake one year, and (falls-down mightily) as the result of it… to make the very same mistake 8 years later, expecting different results, is only the mark of an idiot. You’ve no doubt heard the phrase: “All Lives Matter” of late…

    Well Kansan lives matter, Wisconsinite lives matter, Alabaman lives matter, and Utahan lives matter as well.

    These are all things you could teach your daughters.

    It would also be good preparation to teach them about the purpose of the Electoral College being to demand attention for every state by those intent upon being successful at running for the U.S. Presidency.

    Your first goal should be that your own children refrain from being the uninformed idiots who are now circling the continental U.S. somehow ‘protesting’ the election results for the sole reason that their own parents were too lacking in foresight to teach them about the Presidential election process long ago.

    By second or fourth grade, your daughters should be taught in school the words to “The Pledge of Allegiance”. This is quite literally “old-school stuff”.

    And perhaps your daughters can in turn remind you of the words to said pledge:

    “… to the Republic, for which it stands, one nation…”

    With the key word being “Republic”.

    Teach your daughters what a “Republic” IS, will you???

    (and save future societies considerable grief in the process)

    • November 15, 2016 / 12:45 am

      Thanks for your comment, Horatio. I can’t help but feel a condescending tone here, but I will give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that wasn’t your intent. Your sentiments seem to imply that you know how my family voted in this election. I have purposefully not shared that because I don’t think it’s relevant to this conversation. That said, I plan to teach my daughters all about how the government works in addition to having self-respect and respect for others. And I guarantee that they will not be “uninformed idiots”. Thanks for reading!

  3. sayhellonature
    November 11, 2016 / 9:55 am

    I love this post! SO much. My daughter is far too young to understand anything about politics so for me, it just came down to the fact that I still have to lead by example. Show her what I’m capable of so she can do the same for herself. Show her that everyone has value, including her. Show her that this world can be great even if it’s filled with people that aren’t necessarily as great as she is.

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:49 pm

      Yes! You’re absolutely right. Thank you!

  4. November 11, 2016 / 2:08 am

    I love what you had to say while being a parent to both boys and girls is important I have both and I worry the most about my daughter in our world. I hope to raise her to be strong and to never allow any male to disrespect her in any way.. Thank you for sharing.

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:49 pm

      Thank YOU! It’s so important to raise our kids right – for boys to respect girls and for girls to respect themselves!

  5. November 10, 2016 / 9:03 pm

    Such a great post Shannon! You’re so right that what they see us do and say can influence them more than anything they learn in school. Being a girl mom is definitely a challenge, but it’s so worth it!!!!

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:48 pm

      It’s the best, most important job ever! Thanks so much!

  6. November 10, 2016 / 5:14 pm

    Yes! I’ve had the same thoughts this week! This week has been a big, big reminder that being a girl mom is serious business, and this is definitely a season to pour into my daughter’s life.

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:47 pm

      Absolutely! Thanks for reading!

  7. November 10, 2016 / 3:11 pm

    You are so right….. we have a HUGE job teaching our little people…. It was simple when we only had to worry about ourselves and our own actions… now we have to watch how we react because eyes are on us at all times.

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:47 pm

      ALL the time! Thanks so much!

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:47 pm

      Thank you so much!

  8. November 10, 2016 / 3:04 pm

    I second (third) the yes’s. Being a girl mom is a big job to begin with. I have started to have some of these conversations already with my girls, and they will certainly continue.

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:47 pm

      Keep it up, Mama! Thanks for reading!

  9. November 10, 2016 / 12:47 pm

    Great post, this goes for boys as well. Same value must be taught to boys so that as they grow they become the man/men that value the same things that girls do – love and respect and mostly not think think any less or more of anyone because of gender.
    That’s what I’m teaching my boys.

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:46 pm

      Yes! You’re so right! It sounds like you’re teaching them well. Thank you!

  10. November 10, 2016 / 12:00 pm

    This is very true and although I agree that what we teach our kids, our girls, is more important than anything any outside influence can teach them, it would be great to have role models in the public eye that they can look at for inspiration. This was definitely not the way I wanted the election to go, but it has taught me a valuable lesson in awareness.

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:46 pm

      I don’t disagree that it would be nice for more positive role models but there were ALWAYS be negative ones out there; it’s up to us to teach our kids to identify the good and bad ones.

  11. November 10, 2016 / 9:11 am

    Great post! I think this is important even if you don’t have daughters. We have nieces, sisters, etc that look to our example. We must be the role models for the future generation of fierce females!

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:45 pm

      Yes! Yes! Yes! Thank you, Kim!

  12. November 10, 2016 / 8:34 am

    Hi Shannon, thanks for encouraging others to be the best role model they can be. Encouraging and supporting is my main goal as a mother and human being as well. Great read.

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:45 pm

      Thank you SO much for reading and for your kind words!

  13. Latasha
    November 10, 2016 / 8:26 am

    Awesome post! 🙂

    I just had a son & love being a new mommy! I am totally looking forward to having at least one girl next, Lord willing! 🙂

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:44 pm

      Thank you so much! So much of this is applicable to boy moms, too! Congrats to you!

  14. November 10, 2016 / 8:10 am

    For sure my friend and having a little girl myself I totally agree with what we have to do to raise them right! Keep it up lady!

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:44 pm

      Thank you! We have to lean in and raise them right!

  15. kage2015
    November 10, 2016 / 7:41 am

    I only raised one daughter along with two sons. They are all strong, independent persons in their own right.

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:43 pm

      And I’m sure it had more to do with how you raised them than anything else! Great job, Mama!

  16. November 10, 2016 / 7:29 am

    My daughter is 16 and was very aware of everything that’s gone on over the past year. We had a lot of discussions about it, and you’re right. It has a lot more to do with what WE teach her than anyone else! I am grateful that she is a strong, smart young woman with her own opinions and a strong sense of self-value!

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:43 pm

      Thank you! It sounds like you’re a great mom!

  17. November 10, 2016 / 7:10 am

    Amen! You’re so right!! We are always the first teachers and the ones who have most influence… great post!

    • November 13, 2016 / 4:43 pm

      Thank you so much!

  18. November 10, 2016 / 6:12 am

    Yes. Just yes. Well said mama. It’s our job to teach our girls, our babies.

    • November 10, 2016 / 6:24 am

      Thank you, Jacki!!

  19. November 10, 2016 / 6:12 am

    Great post. I have three daughters and a huge job to do – you’re right! Thanks for sharing!

    • November 10, 2016 / 6:24 am

      Thank you for reading!!

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