The Seasons of Motherhood

The Seasons of Motherhood

As I sit here in my driveway on this Labor Day afternoon, watching my youngest splash around in her kiddie pool without a worry in the world, I can’t help but feel a tinge of bittersweet reflection. I live in Atlanta, GA, where summer actually lasts until about mid-October, but there’s something about Labor Day weekend that is symbolic; it marks the end of one season and the beginning of the next, even though the seasons themselves actually fade into one another.

That’s how motherhood is, isn’t it? A constant and gradual change from one season to the next? Sometimes you can see the end happening, and sometimes you wake up and wonder where it all went. You never really realize when the last of something occurs – the mispronunciation of a word, carrying them around a certain way (or at all), sloppy baby kisses (on the lips, of course), or playing with a certain toy – until you look back and can’t remember the last time it happened. It’s a blessing and a curse, I suppose; if we knew it was the last time maybe we would treasure it more. But, if we knew it was the last time maybe we would spend our days grieving all the lastsΒ rather than embracing the firsts.

As this Labor Day weekend winds down, I’m thankful that GA living allows summer to continue just a little longer; that I don’t have to say “goodbye” to Sweet E’s adorable seahorse bathing suit just yet. Although, my mama heart aches knowing that the time is near. The physical seasons ahead are my favorite: fall colors and leaves, sweaters and boots, pumpkin patches, giving thanks, Santa Claus, and the birth of Jesus. I hope my girls enjoy these things as much as I do. The mama-seasons ahead include clearly pronounced words, more sass than I can probably ever anticipate, a full-and-exciting grasp on Christmas (by A), and increased levels of independence.

I’ll never know for sure when something will be the last time, but I hope to cherish the moments – those special and seemingly ordinary alike – as though they are. It’s hard. I have remind myself of this when Lady A wants me to carry her and when Sweet E wants her pacifier or bottle. It’s easy to say no, but one day these days will be gone. One day my babies will be grown up and will leave me. One day this season will end. Maybe I’ll see it happening. Maybe I won’t. But just as the seasons of the year inevitably come to an closeΒ – fading from one into another – so do the seasons of motherhood.

Fall may be my favorite season of the year, but being a mom of two little girls who need me has been my favorite season of this life.

Fade slowly, sweet season.
Fade slowly.

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    • Shannnon
      January 31, 2017 / 1:56 am

      Thank you so much for reading!

  1. November 19, 2016 / 1:43 am

    I loved this post it really made me think. I think with my second I am so much more conscious of holding onto those moments and cherishing everyone. You realise with hindsight just how fleeting they are.

    • November 19, 2016 / 9:48 am

      Yes! Exactly! Thank you for reading and for sharing your thoughts!

  2. November 11, 2016 / 3:42 pm

    So true. I try to remind myself to cherish every moment too. They grow up so fast. I still can’t believe my oldest is halfway through his childhood. It seems like just yesterday he was born. Thanks for sharing and encouraging us all to look at the season of motherhood.

    • November 11, 2016 / 8:10 pm

      It goes by way too fast indeed. Thanks for reading!

  3. November 11, 2016 / 3:21 pm

    Great piece because as a mother of three I really do pause a lot of think of how time has flown. I stare more at my youngest daughter than I have at my other two because it becomes more of a reality with every child you have.

    • November 11, 2016 / 8:10 pm

      And it goes by faster with each one! Thank you for reading!

      • November 12, 2016 / 10:37 am

        You’re welcome and looking forward to reading more.

  4. October 10, 2016 / 9:03 pm

    This is lovely! I’m a mother myself and am discovering the wonders of motherhood. How my daughter learns and grows as I grow with her. It’s remarkable! I am new to blogging and if you could give me any advice to get me down a good path, I would appreciate it!

    • October 11, 2016 / 12:56 am

      Congrats on your blog! And, thank you for reading an for sharing your thoughts. Email me anytime!

    • October 7, 2016 / 12:03 am

      Thank you so much! Thanks for reading!

  5. Sumer
    September 7, 2016 / 2:21 pm

    Love this, Shannon! Beautifully written and SO very true!

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:34 pm

      Thank you so much for reading and for your kind words!

  6. September 7, 2016 / 9:18 am

    I totally get this! I’m so torn…..btw were also in Atlanta! I feel this major grief inside knowing I may not have more babies ….I would love to but it won’t happen without medical help ……and our kids are 6 and 8 now. I feel those baby / toddler days just slipped by and while I love this season of life I’m grieving all the moments that are gone πŸ™

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:33 pm

      I’m so happy to have connected with you! It’s so hard when you know (or think you know) that the days are over and gone. πŸ™

  7. September 7, 2016 / 2:58 am

    You’re so right, motherhood is FULL of seasons that seamlessly roll into one another.

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:33 pm

      Thank you! I wish we knew where the start and end were!

  8. September 6, 2016 / 10:09 pm

    Such a beautifully written post! Great reminder to enjoy the season we are in instead of always looking ahead to the next one.

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:32 pm

      Yes! We have to stop wishing life away!

  9. September 6, 2016 / 10:04 pm

    It truly flies by πŸ’›

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:32 pm

      Way too quickly!!

  10. September 6, 2016 / 8:32 pm

    This spoke to my Momma heart. Wonderfully written.

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:32 pm

      Oh, I’m so glad! Thanks for reading and the kind words, Krista!

  11. September 6, 2016 / 7:49 pm

    Such a great reminder to live in the moment!

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:31 pm

      Thank you! So important to do!

  12. lovinglittledixie
    September 6, 2016 / 6:40 pm

    Love this! It’s so important to slow down and savor each moment.

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:31 pm

      Yes! Easier said than done but so important!

  13. September 6, 2016 / 6:20 pm

    Beautiful post. As a mom of two girls too, I totally get it!

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:30 pm

      Thanks so much! Girl moms rule! πŸ˜‰

  14. September 6, 2016 / 5:27 pm

    Beautiful! And very true. I find myself amazed on a daily basis by all the changes Aya goes through. I feel so blessed but it is also bittersweet as you said. But sometimes knowing things will change also help, like knowing one day this constant lack of sleep is just a distant memory πŸ˜¬πŸ˜‡πŸ˜˜

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:30 pm

      And it will feel like it was so long ago. I’ll take some sleepless night in exchange for a squishy baby to hold any day! Thanks for the kind words!

  15. September 6, 2016 / 4:36 pm

    This is exactly what I needed to read….thank you! <3

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:29 pm

      Thank YOU for reading!

  16. September 6, 2016 / 3:38 pm

    Loved this. Im packing my eldest sons backpack for the first day of second grade tomorrow and marveling at how fast it goes. Holding my littler guy extra tight this year knowing that pre-k will be here before we know it!

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:29 pm

      Ahh! Too fast! I’m not ready!!

  17. September 6, 2016 / 2:44 pm

    Love this! Such a good reminder!

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:29 pm

      Thanks for reading!

  18. September 6, 2016 / 1:49 pm

    This is such a beautifully written post! Thank you for sharing. My one piece of Mom advice is “there are seasons”. I really struggled with the newborn stage, and when I got 8 million comments of “I love snuggly babies, just wait until ______”, I was extremely discouraged. I was then shocked to find that I LOVE the toddler stage and that there are different seasons.

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:28 pm

      The “just wait” statements are the worst! I wish moms would just stop doing that! I have loved every stage so far but the baby stage has been my fave.

  19. sippinglifeslemonade
    September 6, 2016 / 1:22 pm

    It’s so easy to get caught up with the now. We have to truly cherish every moment.

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:28 pm

      Yes! Even the hard one!

  20. Britney Crosson
    September 6, 2016 / 1:07 pm

    Great piece. Thank you for sharing. So lovely and so accurate. πŸ™‚

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:27 pm

      Thank you for reading and for your kind words!

  21. September 6, 2016 / 12:33 pm

    It is so easy to get caught up in little things and miss these precious moments. I need to work more on being “there.”

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:27 pm

      Me, too! It’s so hard!

  22. Jen G
    September 6, 2016 / 11:17 am

    They grow up so fast!

  23. September 6, 2016 / 9:45 am

    This is beautiful. May the seasons move slowly indeed! πŸ™‚

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:27 pm

      Thank you so much! And, amen!

  24. September 6, 2016 / 9:25 am

    The ending of a season can be hard…we must try to cherish the moments!

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:26 pm

      Allll of them!

  25. September 6, 2016 / 9:22 am

    Love this one, mama. Beautiful sentiments.

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:26 pm

      Thank you, Aimee! Thanks for reading and the kind words.

  26. September 6, 2016 / 8:48 am

    So sweet and so true! I often think about how my daughter used to say words a certain way, thinking how adorable it was and wishing she still did it. They’re my treasures now.

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:26 pm

      Yes! Sometimes I forget until I hear it on a video and it makes me sad. πŸ™

  27. September 6, 2016 / 8:18 am

    So True!!! It amazes me how time flies by and how much fun kids can truly be! Enjoy XO

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:25 pm

      It goes so fast!!

  28. caseyp1110
    September 6, 2016 / 7:39 am

    Such a sweet post! Their first and lasts come too quickly πŸ™‚

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:25 pm

      I agree! Thank you so much for reading!

  29. Anita Mckaney
    September 6, 2016 / 7:30 am

    This is such a beautiful heartfelt post. I agree that there are so many seasons of motherhood. Trying to soak it all in as well!

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:25 pm

      Thank you so much for reading and for your kind words!

  30. Summer Finch
    September 6, 2016 / 7:23 am

    As expected, I cried reading this. I love the season of mommy hood more than anything I have ever done. R turns 2 in November and has been becoming so independent and opinionated. I love to see the new things but am grasping to all her sweet baby ways as I know they will be going soon. ❀️

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:24 pm

      Aww, Summer! I love your tender spirit. It’s exciting and sad all at once!

  31. September 6, 2016 / 7:21 am

    This is such a sweet post. I often wonder when the last was for a lot of things. I always say that it hurts my heart they have to grow up, yet makes me so proud and happy. Motherhood is definitely an emotional roller coaster!

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:24 pm

      Roller coaster to say the least! It’s excitement and grief all rolled into one!

  32. September 6, 2016 / 6:35 am

    Love this Shannon. I’m more of a summer girl even though it was much more bearable when I was living in CA, lol, but there’s so much wonder and joy ahead as the seasons change. In motherhood and in life it’s so significant to embrace the transitions.

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:23 pm

      I agree! Thank you for reading and for your wise words!

  33. Bernadette
    September 6, 2016 / 2:17 am

    I really enjoyed this article, so timely. I woke up this morning and just like that my almost 2 year old daughter has given up Elmo and moved onto Disney Princesses. She is becoming so independent. It happens so fast. I want her to get both older and younger at the same time. Thank you for sharing!

    • September 13, 2016 / 10:23 pm

      Such conflicting emotions! I’m not ready for her to outgrow princesses!

    • September 6, 2016 / 12:20 am

      Thanks, Mama! You’re the best!

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