Learning to Love My Mom Bod

Learning to Love My Mom Bod

Y’all, this post has been hard for me to write. These photos are hard for me to post. Mostly because in my hearts of hearts, I know I’m being ridiculous. Many of you will read this post and look at these photos and think that I’m absolutely crazy, and maybe I am; you’ll think I have dysmorphia, and maybe I do. You’ll tell me that I look great and that I should be proud of and happy with myself; that the way I think I should look is unrealistic and unattainable. But the truth is that while you might be right, I just don’t like my postpartum body and I’m not sorry about that. Some of you will be mad at me for thinking negative thoughts about myself because you’re not happy with yourself, and you’re entitled to feel that just like I’m entitled to how I feel.

Do I think I’m fat? No. But, I do long for the figure I had when I was 22.
Is that shallow? Probably.
Do I care? No.

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This post is sponsored by stā BODY but, as always, all thoughts and opinions are mine.

Y’all, I know I’m not fat. I know this. But, in addition to the pudge I can’t kick at my waist line (which I realize is pretty minimal) regardless of the number on the scale, the subtle stretch marks, and the loose-ish skin around my belly button (which is now bigger and deeper than ever before), I have diastasis recti. I’ve always had a bloating problem, but my diastasis recti makes it appear to be even worse. I avoid form-fitting tops and dresses at all costs because I’m unhappy with my midsection and how it expands throughout the day. Flowy, a-line, trapeze, and swing styles are my jam.

Fun Fact: I wear shapewear every single time I wear a dress. That’s not a lie; things jiggle these days and I need to hold them in. So, it’s part of my daily wardrobe.

All of that being said, I saw myself a little bit differently for the first time this past weekend. I tried on my new stā BODY (pronouced “stay body”) bodysuit with my loose fitting boyfriend shorts and, for the first time in a long time, I felt good about myself. I was slightly self-conscious, of course, but I felt good overall. Since I’m a regular user of shapewear, I’m always up for trying new brands and I was so excited about stā BODY. It’s a bodysuit intended for “every day” use and has a built-in thong bottom (because who wants panty lines?) but it’s actually easy to use the bathroom while wearing it because the bottom is only connected in the front. It doesn’t ride or bunch up, and has a great combination of flattening and stretch. It smoothed out some of my most-hated lumps and dents. What made me the most excited, was that it’s tank-top style so it can be worn on it’s own. The straps are thick enough to hide bra straps which is super important to me these days; I hate strapless bras and they always creep down when I carry my kids around so I always look for things that don’t require one. All of my other shapewear tops have adjustable, thin straps with some sort of stretchy top that screams “I’m shapewear!!” stā BODY, though, has the look of a tank, the advantages of a bodysuit, and the ease of separates.

When I look at the photos below, I see imperfection. That’s just the truth. But, I remind myself of how confident I felt that day, wearing something I otherwise would have never worn without a loose-fitting shirt on top. So, while I don’t love my mom bod just yet, stā BODY is helping me feel more comfortable and confident in my own skin.

And, because stā BODY values you, my awesome readers and wants to help you feel good, too, use the code WORKINGMOM for 20% off your purchase!

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So tell me, Mamas… how do you feel about your Mom Bod and what helps you feel confident?

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  1. November 6, 2016 / 9:51 am

    I think this is amazing, running boosts my endorphins and that helps. Also just getting dressed and putting on make up

    • November 6, 2016 / 11:24 am

      Yes! I need to find time to exercise!!

    • November 6, 2016 / 9:15 am

      Thanks so much! It’s the shapewear! 😉

  2. November 4, 2016 / 9:17 pm

    I completely get it! I used to call myself fat one, even two years ago and looking back I scoff at myself. I would kill for what I thought were imperfections. You do look great, but I completely get where you’re coming from!

    • November 5, 2016 / 1:35 pm

      Right?! “I wish I were as skinny as the time I thought I was fat” is one of my fave meme quotes! Thanks for the support and understanding!!

  3. November 4, 2016 / 7:05 pm

    You look great! The body insecurity is so real for most of use. And yes, shapewear does help.

    • November 4, 2016 / 7:37 pm

      I can’t live without my shapewear!

  4. November 4, 2016 / 2:03 pm

    I swear I live in shapewear. I have to check this one out. You look amazing by the way.

    • November 4, 2016 / 3:40 pm

      Thank you, Andrea! It’s because of the shapwear! 😉

  5. November 4, 2016 / 8:22 am

    I’ve actually never worn shapewear, but this post really makes me want to. I’ve been getting more comfortable with my new post-baby body, but I’m still very self-conscious. Thanks for recommending this; I think I might try it soon.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:34 am

      I wear it like every day! It will help keep everything in place for sure!

  6. November 4, 2016 / 7:16 am

    I love this post! And yes, while you look gorgeous, I understand not totally loving the mom bod. Thanks for the inspiration 🙂

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:34 am

      Thank you for the understanding and support!

  7. ktgoff3
    November 4, 2016 / 12:08 am

    You look gorgeous Mama! I thought you were older too! Awesome read!

    • November 4, 2016 / 7:24 am

      Thank you!! I tried to reword the statement that makes it sound like I’m 22… I’m not. I’m nearing 32, actually. I just wish I still had the figure I did when I was 22. LOL! Thanks for reading!! xo

  8. Melissa
    November 3, 2016 / 11:13 pm

    Adjusting to the new mom bod is tough! You do look great though. I will be checking out this shapewear for sure.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:34 am

      Thank you so very much!

  9. November 3, 2016 / 10:39 pm

    This shapewear looks amazing! I really need to get some. I feel the same way when I wear form fitting tops!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:35 am

      I try to avoid them like the plague! I don’t like anything that touches my stomach.

  10. November 3, 2016 / 10:38 pm

    Shannon, you look great. I can totally understand the insecurity, though, and you are so brave to post them anyways. I am definitely in the loose tops and a-line phase myself.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:35 am

      Thank you! I’m so glad stuff like that is in style! LOL

  11. November 3, 2016 / 9:48 pm

    Great post! I totally agree with what you’re saying. It doesn’t matter if people tell you you look great or that you should like your body because it only matters how you feel about yourself. That being said you do look amazing!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:35 am

      Exactly! Thank you SO much!

  12. November 3, 2016 / 9:43 pm

    Girl, you look great! We are our own worst critic, aren’t we! I’ve never seen you as anything less than gorgeous.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:36 am

      Oh Nicole! You’ve always been so sweet and I am thankful to still be connected with you after all of these years. Thanks, girl!

  13. November 3, 2016 / 8:56 pm

    No words, you look amaze my friend. Love your mama heart <3

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:36 am

      Thank YOU, my friend! You’re the best!

  14. November 3, 2016 / 8:14 pm

    I thought I would be more confident in my post partum body after having my second baby but it was just as hard if not harder. Part of this is because of the midsection that just isn’t going anywhere and I’ve never ever dressed a body like this before. So glad that you opened up and shared. This product is one that I could probably use!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:38 am

      It’s such a hard adjustment! My diastasis definitely got worse after #2 came along. Ugh.

  15. November 3, 2016 / 7:34 pm

    You look great. I too long for the days of my post baby bod. However, I love my kids too much to go back. Great recommendation of the body suit. I just had my baby and I really enjoy a little extra support afterward. I could see this being a great fit for myself.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:39 am

      I hope you love it! And, I’m with you… I would never go back to pre-baby life but pre-baby bod would be more than welcomed! LOL 🙂

  16. November 3, 2016 / 6:57 pm

    We are women! I have never known any woman who is happy with their body. Trust me when I tell you, even super models want to change something! Now in saying that, I know how you feel and I think I might have to give this bodysuit a try! P.S. you look amazing!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:40 am

      Thank you for relating! I appreciate it so much! You’re so right – everyone has something they don’t like. And, thanks for the kind words!

  17. lovinglittledixie
    November 3, 2016 / 6:24 pm

    It’s so hard to get used to your postpartum body, no matter what size you are. It’s just different! That being said, we are our own worst critic. From the outside looking in, you look beautiful just the way you are.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:41 am

      So sweet of you to say! Thank you so very much!

  18. November 3, 2016 / 3:04 pm

    I’ve got to try this out…. so flattering!! you look great!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:41 am

      Yes! I hope it works for you!!

  19. November 3, 2016 / 3:00 pm

    You are flipping gorgeous! I SO get what you’re saying though. Even though I got back into shape real quick after my son, I still thought about the tighter belly skin I used to have and a belly with zero stretch marks. Pregnancy isn’t easy and it does a lot to the female body but we are warriors. I know everyone always says to accept those scars and those marks because you earned them, but seriously? haha. I still take a ton of pride in how I look. Honestly though, you look freaking amazing! <3

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:42 am

      Aww THANK YOU!! Right?! I would love to see them as battle scars but I just don’t. LOL.

  20. November 3, 2016 / 2:06 pm

    Mama! You look fantastic. I have had 3 babies in 5 years…I miss my 20s body for sure, but I’m so appreciative of what my body has done for me!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:42 am

      Me too! It’s an amazing thing! Thanks so much for the kind words. <3

  21. November 3, 2016 / 1:20 pm

    I totally hear you! I still haven’t quite gotten over the loss of my pre-mom bod. You do look beautiful though and you created a tiny human!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:43 am

      TWO tiny humans! Double the damage… LOL. Thanks for the support and kindness!

  22. November 3, 2016 / 12:30 pm

    Well your “mom bod” it pretty freaking fierce lady!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:43 am

      Thank you, Ashley!!

  23. November 3, 2016 / 12:26 pm

    I struggle so much with my postpartum body! I’ve always had trouble losing weight and gaining even a few pounds on my 5 ft frame is totally noticeable. I haven’t gotten into shape wear yet but I love that this doesn’t even look like shape wear!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:44 am

      Yes! 5 lbs on me is totally noticeable because I have a small frame. Plus, I gain it all in my belly every time! And, I would die without shapewear! It’s a staple for me.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:44 am

      Thank you so much! Me, too!

  24. November 3, 2016 / 10:02 am

    This is great shannon!! I am the same way! I know I am not fat in any way but, at the same time there are things I would really like to change and my body looks soo much different after 3 kids! LOL Thanks for the vulnerability!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:46 am

      Thanks, Mama! It’s hard to admit that you’re not happy with yourself when you’re a thin person because other people will think that because you’re thin and you’re unhappy with yourself then you must think that they’re fat. So not the case. It’s rare that I think others are fat, you know?! Thanks for empathizing! xo

  25. November 3, 2016 / 9:57 am

    I wanted to write that you DO look great and that you don´t have anything to worry about, but i am exactly the same: despite many people saying i bounced back good i hate my postpartum belly.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:46 am

      THANK YOU! You also look great! Thank goodness for clothes that hide it all!

  26. November 3, 2016 / 9:30 am

    Diastis can be tough to deal with. There is hope tho…You can totally heal it or at least greatly improve it! You should look up Bellies inc. They are amazing. Or message me and I can lead you in the right direction!!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:47 am

      I will look them up, thanks! I was doing the MuTu System for awhile but fell off the bandwagon. I need to get back on it!

  27. November 3, 2016 / 9:05 am

    you are BEAUTIFUL and i love your honesty and your heart!!!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:47 am

      Thank you so much, Molly! I appreciate it greatly!

  28. Megan
    November 3, 2016 / 8:46 am

    I feel you! The struggle is so real.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:47 am

      Girl, it is SO real!!

  29. November 3, 2016 / 8:03 am

    I feel like after I had my second baby, my tummy has some loose skin that I wish I didn’t have. And let’s not even talk about my boobs that are gone for breastfeed both of them. Oh the struggle is definitely real. LOL

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:48 am

      Oh my gosh, yes! And lopsided! LOL. Struggle so real for sure.

  30. shannanpanganiban
    November 3, 2016 / 7:54 am

    I feel you. I am 22 and wish I had a 22 year olds body 🙁 lol! Kids really wear on your bod – and I really want to check out this brand for holiday dressing up!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:48 am

      I didn’t realize you were 22! You totally should! Use the coupon! 🙂

  31. November 3, 2016 / 7:28 am

    What a great post! Who doesn’t want their 22 year old body, but that said, I wouldn’t go back to my 22 year old life!!! Love where I am at now with my kids, family, everything! Love that you shared that.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:49 am

      Exactly! 22 year old body only! I love my kiddos and family! Thanks for reading!

  32. November 3, 2016 / 7:24 am

    LOVE this! I don’t think you have any pudge, but I totally understand! Most days I actually like my mom body better than I did before, it’s stronger. But then some days I get frustrated because 1 off day with eating and I get that pudge and feel squishy. I really just try to embrace my body now for what it is, and what it allows me to do every day.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:49 am

      You can’t see the pudge because of the shaperwear, Silly! I need to work on embracing mine more, too. I feel squishy all the time!

  33. November 3, 2016 / 7:19 am

    Well you look amazing!! My mom bod is a few years older than you and is still hard to love but its all about comfort and confidence! Great post!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:50 am

      Thank you SO much! Credit goes to the shapewear! LOL

  34. November 3, 2016 / 7:17 am

    This is something I struggle with all the time. I look at you and think, “wow, she’s beautiful.” Then when I read that you are struggling with the same thing, I’m reminded that I’m not alone in this and shouldn’t compare myself to others.

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:50 am

      Exactly! Comparison is the thief of joy. You’re so not alone. Thanks for reading!

  35. November 3, 2016 / 7:13 am

    Such a great post and so true for so many moms! I struggled for the longest with my body after having two kids but I had to learn to love me as I am because I wouldn’t trade my kiddos for the world! Eating right, exercising and taking care of myself has also helped because I know I’m doing what I can!

    • November 4, 2016 / 10:51 am

      Yes! Thank you for sharing! I need to get better about what I eat and I need to sleep more and start exercising. Basically, I need more discipline and hours in the day. LOL. Thanks for reading!

  36. November 3, 2016 / 6:57 am

    Well #1…you’re only 22?! Haha you def look young but I didn’t realize that young! #2 you’re gorgeous and look fabulous with and without the shapewear! But this does look amazing. I’m extremely self conscious of my mom bod. I’m like you and my stomach expands throughout the day. I can’t wait to get home and put on elastic waist pants. Ill def be checking stabody out!

    • November 3, 2016 / 6:59 am

      Girl! I’m not 22! I’m 31… I wish I had my 22 year old figure again. LOL

      And, thank you SO much for the kindness and love!! You’re a babe. xo

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